Whether you’re swinging from chandeliers or opt to abstain altogether, sexuality is an essential component of self-expression, identity and healthy lifestyle. Unfortunately, many of us tend to overthink sexual relationships and encounters, and this can detract from presence, pleasure and connection. The good news is that you don’t have to make sweeping changes to effect significant positive change in the bedroom. Even minor adjustments to your lifestyle, attitude and approach can effect big change between the sheets.
Try these sex hacks tonight to take your sex life to the next level.
1. Use Lube
The simple addition of lube is a tiny change that reaps heavy weight benefits. It’s time to get over the myth that you don’t need lube if you’re turned on. The reality is that even a few drops of this slippery stuff opens a whole new world of possibilities with regard to techniques and positions.
A study of 2,453 women found that the use of water and silicone-based versions significantly decreased symptoms of sexual dysfunction and 70 percent of participants reported that their sexual experiences were enhanced when using lube.
2. Wear Socks To Bed
Got cold feet? You may be less likely to reach orgasm. A study using brain scans to track fake orgasms stumbled across the finding that women with cold feet are less likely to reach orgasm (at least in a laboratory setting). When researchers gave couples socks to wear, 80% reached orgasm in comparison to only 50% of those with bare feet!
3. Get To Know The Inner Clitoris
The clitoris is more than just a pea-sized bump at the top of her labia. It is a complex system that includes a head (the part we often refer to as the clitoris), a shaft/cord, foreskin/hood, legs and bulbs. The inner clitoris (you can access the bulbs through her labia and the shaft beneath the hood) is the reason why many women derive intense pleasure from rubbing and grinding against a firm surface as opposed to simply sliding something in and out or pulsing over the head of the clit.
Get to know the full clitoris and you may find that orgasms come more easily, with greater intensity and in multiples.
4- Use Pillows To Play With New Positions
You don’t have to buy fancy equipment to practice Kama Sutra worthy positions in bed. A few extra pillow may be all you need. Use them beneath your hips, below your back, under your stomach and on the floor next to the bed to experiment with more challenging positions like The Sexy Crow: one partner lies on the edge of the bed face-down with the upper half of their body hanging off the side of the bed. They can place their hands on the floor for balance. The other partner slides a few pillows under the first partner’s hips to raise them up and kneels on the bed to approach from behind.
5. Use An App
Sex is now app-enabled thanks to innovative tech companies whose designs allow you to control their devices from your smartphone. Canadian tech sweetheart Standard Innovation has designed the We-Vibe 4+ which can be worn during intercourse and controlled from a remote control or your phone. Its vibrations and patterns can be customized and it’s designed with couples and intimate connection in mind.
6. Play A Game
Novelty isn’t just the spice of life — it’s what keeps relationships hot over the years! Thanks to technology, you no longer have to purchase board games, as there are a range of games for couples available at the touch of the button. Check out The Sex Challenge, Sexy Dice 3D Lite and iKamaSutra Lite to inspire new conversations and exploration both in and out of the bedroom.
7. Drink Pineapple Juice
We don’t have any scientific evidence to support the belief that what you eat changes the way your fluids taste, but experts agree that sweet fruits and low preservative diets lead to a sweeter taste between your legs.
8. Open Your Eyes
There is nothing wrong with closing your eyes and relishing in the moment, but if you’re looking to boost intimacy and connect with your partner in a new and meaningful way, try looking one another in the eyes during intercourse.
A healthy lifestyle is positively correlated with sexual health, frequency and satisfaction. The endorphins released post-workout are not only stimulating, but they can trigger the release of sex hormones, boost mood and reduce stress all of which are essential to both healthy living and sexual health.
10. Envision A Time That You Were Powerful
There is nothing sexier than confidence, so if you’re looking to boost your confidence in the bedroom, try this simple hack: think about a scenario in which you wielded power and influence in the past. For instance, an effective boardroom presentation or the receipt of an award.
Envisioning yourself as powerful not only improves your self-confidence, but also enhances the way others perceive you.
A recognized Toronto-based expert on sexuality and relationships, Dr. Jess has a unique ability to normalize the subjects of sex with her gentle humor and friendly disposition. She holds a PhD degree in Human Sexuality. Dr. Jess has worked with over 2000 couples from all corners of the world to overcome sexual challenges. She’s also the author of three best-selling books and loves to travel.